Leadership and Self-Deception: Getting Out of the Box PDF AZW3 EPUB MOBI TXT Download


This third edition of an international bestseller–over 2 million copies sold worldwide and translated into 33 languages–details how its powerful insights on motivation, conflict, and collaboration can benefit organizations as well as individuals. Since its original publication in 2000, Leadership and Self-Deception has become an international word-of-mouth phenomenon. Rather than tapering off, it sells more copies every year. The book’s central insight–that the key to leadership lies not in what we do but in who we are–has proven to have powerful implications not only for organizational leadership but in readers’ personal lives as well. Leadership and Self-Deception uses an entertaining story everyone can relate to about a man facing challenges at work and at home to expose the fascinating ways that we blind ourselves to our true motivations and unwittingly sabotage the effectiveness of our own efforts to achieve happiness and increase happiness. We trap ourselves in a “box” of endless self-justification. Most importantly, the book shows us the way out. Readers will discover what millions already have learned–how to consistently tap into and act on their innate sense of what’s right, dramatically improving all of their relationships.

The Arbinger Institute
September 4, 2018
240 pages
English
978-1523097807

File Size: 36 MB
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Language: English, Francais, Italiano, Espanol, Deutsch, chinese

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Arbinger’s innovative exploration of what lies beneath behavior uplifts, enlightens, and transforms. We’ve wholeheartedly adopted Leadership and Self-Deception as the foundational material for our administrator development program.” —Troy S. Buer, Educational Program Director, University of Virginia School of Medicine “This is probably the most outstanding book that directs us to soul searching and introspection. It teaches us to take accountability for our lives and our destinies in a down-to-earth and bluntly practical manner. The lessons in this book have helped me personally, as well as other people I love.” —Kalyan Banerjee, cofounder and Senior Vice President, MindTree “The principles of Leadership and Self Deception provide the groundwork for our success as individuals and organizations. 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The organization for which I work has passed this book to so many people, and it is amazing to watch peoples’ attitudes and behaviors towards each other changing. Each day everyone gives a little more, making us better leaders but more importantly better people.” —Nuala Murphy, Senior Vice President, Global Financial Services Company “Leadership and Self-Deception holds up a brutally honest mirror to behavior in which we all indulge to justify our shortcomings. The result is not self-remorse or punishment but a glimpse of a life to be lived with integrity and freed of the boundaries and constraints we inflict upon ourselves and others. I am always excited to watch Arbinger’s thinking help my clients to unlock painful family disputes and lead them to resolution.”  —Neil Denny, family lawyer, Wiltshire, UK  “A remarkable book. It can be valuable to your understanding of why so many people create their own problems, are unable and/or unwilling to see that they are creating their own problems, and then resist any attempts by others to help them stop creating those problems.”  —Robert Morris, Amazon Top 50 Reviewer  “I’ve been in the book publishing business for twenty five years. Rarely have I read a book as profound and life-changing as Leadership and Self-Deception.”  —David Sanford, Literary Agent, Credo Communications “This book was recommended to me at an annual strategic planning session. I was stunned by the truth of it and the simple solution. Our entire management has now read it. It has been a building block for our personal and organizational development.”  —Rick Chalk, CEO, Cal-Tex Protective Coatings “My business partners and I built a health-care company on the ideas in this book. We are amazed at what it has helped us achieve. Careful reading and rereading of this book has proven better than any productivity, team-building, or leadership training we’ve encountered.”  —Mark Ballif, CEO, Plum Healthcare  “An important book that has the potential to change the way you think, behave, and live your life, both personally and professionally.”  —Rolf Dobelli, Amazon Top 50 Reviewer  “Our Executive Committee read Leadership and Self-Deception nearly two years ago. Since then every member of our staff has read it. The Arbinger approach adds tremendous value as we grow the company and integrate companies we acquire along the way.”  —Robin Hamill, Chairman, Igility Group  About the Author Founded in 1979, the Arbinger Institute has helped thousands of individuals, teams, and organizations achieve breakthrough results by making the one change that most dramatically improves performance, sparks collaboration, and accelerates innovation: a shift from the default self-focus of an “inward mindset” to the others-inclusive results-focus of an “outward mindset.” Arbinger’s training and consulting programs are specifically designed to facilitate this change. Excerpt. © Reprinted by permission. All rights reserved. Bud It was a brilliant summer morning shortly before nine, and I was hurrying to the most important meeting of my new job at Zagrum Company. As I walked across the tree-lined grounds, I recalled the day two months earlier when I had first entered the secluded campus-style headquarters to interview for a senior management position. I had been watching the company for more than a decade from my perch at one of its competitors and had tired of finishing second. After eight interviews and three weeks spent doubting myself and waiting for news, I was hired to lead one of Zagrum’s product lines. Now, four weeks later, I was about to be introduced to a senior management ritual peculiar to Zagrum: a daylong one-on-one meeting with the executive vice president, Bud Jefferson. Bud was the right-hand man to Zagrum’s president, Kate Stenarude. And due to a shift within the executive team, he was about to become my new boss. I had tried to find out what this meeting was all about, but my colleagues’ explanations confused me. They mentioned a discovery that solved “people problems”; how no one really focused on results; and that something about the “Bud Meeting,” as it was called, and strategies that evidently followed from it, was key to Zagrum’s incredible success. I had no idea what they were talking about, but I was eager to meet, and impress, my new boss. Bud Jefferson was a youngish-looking 50-year-old combination of odd-fitting characteristics: a wealthy man who drove around in an economy car without hubcaps; a near–high school dropout who had graduated with law and business degrees, summa cum laude, from Harvard; a connoisseur of the arts who was hooked on the Beatles. Despite his apparent contradictions, and perhaps partly because of them, Bud was revered as something of an icon. He was universally admired in the company. It took 10 minutes on foot to cover the distance from my office in Building 8 to the lobby of the Central Building. The pathway — one of many connecting Zagrum’s 10 buildings — meandered beneath oak and maple canopies along the banks of Kate’s Creek, a postcard-perfect stream that was the brainchild of Kate Stenarude and had been named after her by the employees. As I scaled the Central Building’s hanging steel stairway up to the third floor, I reviewed my performance during my month at Zagrum: I was always among the earliest to arrive and latest to leave. I felt that I was focused and didn’t let outside matters interfere with my objectives. Although my wife often complained about it, I was making a point to outwork and outshine every coworker who might compete for promotions in the coming years. I nodded to myself in satisfaction. I had nothing to be ashamed of. I was ready to meet Bud Jefferson. Arriving in the main lobby of the third floor, I was greeted by Bud’s secretary, Maria. “You must be Tom Callum,” she said with enthusiasm. “Yes, thank you. I have an appointment with Bud for nine o’clock,” I said. “Yes. Bud asked me to have you wait for him in the East-view Room. He should be with you in about five minutes.” Maria escorted me down the hall and into a large conference room. I went to the long bank of windows and admired the views of the campus between the leaves of the green Connecticut woods. A minute or so later, there was a brisk knock on the door, and in walked Bud. “Hello, Tom. Thanks for coming,” he said with a big smile as he offered his hand. “Please, sit down. Can I get you something to drink? Coffee, juice?” “No, thank you,” I replied, “I’ve had plenty already this morning.” I settled in the black leather chair nearest me, my back to the window, and waited for Bud as he poured himself some water in the serving area in the corner. He walked back with his water, bringing the pitcher and an extra glass with him. He set them on the table between us. “Sometimes things can get pretty hot in here. We have a lot to do this morning. Please feel free whenever you’d like.” “Thanks,” I stammered. I was grateful for the gesture but more unsure than ever what this was all about. “Tom,” said Bud abruptly, “I’ve asked you to come today for one reason — an important reason.” “Okay,” I said evenly, trying to mask the anxiety I was feeling. “You have a problem — a problem you’re going to have to solve if you’re going to make it at Zagrum.” I felt as if I’d been kicked in the stomach. I groped for some appropriate word or sound, but my mind was racing and words failed me. I was immediately conscious of the pounding of my heart and the sensation of blood draining from my face. As successful as I had been in my career, one of my hidden weaknesses was that I was too easily knocked off balance. I had learned to compensate by training the muscles in my face and eyes to relax so that no sudden twitch would betray my alarm. And now, it was as if my face instinctively knew that it had to detach itself from my heart or I would be found out to be the same cowering third-grader who broke into an anxious sweat, hoping for a “well done” sticker, every time Mrs. Lee passed back the homework. Finally I managed to say, “A problem? What do you mean?” “Do you really want to know?” asked Bud. “I’m not sure. I guess I need to, from the sound of it.” “Yes,” Bud agreed, “you do.” Read more <div id="

  • Hi, my name is Sammy and I’m 14. I read Leadership and Self-Deception and I hope that you will too.I was reading Leadership and Self-Deception (LaSD) for a class on — you guessed it, leadership. It’s in a story format, and while the story is not Epic Fantasy, it is written well enough and with the right amount of examples to keep it engaging.What is LaSD about? A man named Tom. He is going to a meeting with the co-leader of a company. In this meeting, he is told that he has a problem. That everyone has this problem. The problem is called being “In the box”. What does it mean to be in the box? The short answer is that when you are in the box, your view is obstructed so that you can not see what the real problem is, or that you have a problem. The long answer is in the book. You should read it.Being in the box is something that happens all the time. In fact, the night after I finished LSaD I realized that I was in the box toward someone, and using what I had learned was able to get out. Unfortunately, there are times that I don’t realize that I am in the box and don’t get out until later. Sorry Mom.If everyone were perfect then no one would need to read this book. Unfortunately, no one is perfect and so everyone should read this book, and if everyone read this book, the world would be a better place.Then again, you may read this book and disagree. If so, I still think you could get something out of it. I disagreed with the book about getting out of the box, but I still had a great discussion with my group and we came up with some great ideas (if I do say so myself).I hope that you will spend some of your life reading this book. The rest of your life will be better for it. (;– SammyIf you have any thoughts on my review or LaSD, please comment!
  • Recently, I was in a bit of a dilemma. I sensed I was very aggressive towards some of my colleagues. Luckily, I noticed this I approached my coach, mentor, and boss for help. He told me he was also having a similar challenge a few years ago, and this book helped him to recover, and maybe I could give it a try too.The problem book solves, as humans, and corporate citizens, we often claim we work in broken organizations, with broken people. They are stupid, lazy, ignorant, uneducated, unhelpful…etc. But the problem sometimes could it be us, not them. But often we are blind towards this.This book taught me how to identify when I am self-deceptive, what won’t fix the problem, and how to fix the problem. In that sense, I would say this is a must-read for every manager.But I have to say; this is one of the strangest books I have ever read. It is non-fiction written as a fiction. Most probably, they wanted to keep the accountability of the concept with the reader instead of the author. As when we read non-fiction we typically, think, “okay, this bugger is recommending me this book, I’ll apply it and see whether it works, if not I’ll blame the bugger.”These authors have tried to tell us a story so that we would understand the concept using our comprehension skills and apply. That’s the thing I love about the book. But, their storytelling skills are appealing; it is like a B-grade movie or porn, horrible-unrealistic-fake story. In one case, the story invites a COO, CEO, and retired ex-founder to teach this loser middle manager for two days. Unrealistic like porn.For that reason, I find it as painful read, and score the book 2 out of 5, They should have sent to book to a ghostwriter or proper fiction author to get the story right if they fixed that this would have been a great book.But, I would still recommend it to any struggling manager like me—pretty cool and eye-opening content.
  • I’ve been reading over 50 books a year since 1974. This is one of the twenty best books I’ve ever read. It’ll give you a roadmap of how to become personally responsible, stop blaming or justifying your way through life.Too often we have huge blind spots in our life and don’t ever really take an honest look at ourself. This book is extremely consumable and after you’re done, you might decide to see where you can change how you interact with others.I’ll be using it with my clients and family to help foster better communication. Read this book, you’ll be glad you did.
  • This book is quite humbling! It truly made me rethink all the things I have been doing, not even realizing I was doing something to cause the problem. I always thought I was the one coming up with the great solution. Boy was I wrong! This book is life changing and will open your eyes in each aspect of your life. It will change your self prospective at home and at work. I wish everyone at my office would listen to this book on audio.
  • Probably one of the most profoundly paradigm shifting and intuitively common sense approaches to helping you or someone you know become a better human being, to be able to communicate with others in a way that is less offensive and more about relationships. I got this book as a “mandatory reading” for a job I had about 10 years ago, and I have given this book to about 50 other people since that time. That is not hyperbole. I have literally been able to change lives and improve marriages through the miracles that can take place when one understands the principles discussed in this book. IF you are on the fence about this book- don’t be. Get it. Read it. Internalize it. I have not read many books or know of any others that have had the influence that this book has had other than the ones I devoured that are written by the Arbinger Institute (who wrote this book). The others that they have written are as amazing as this one, and you deserve to have this knowledge in your toolbelt. — And I guarantee you will become a better son or daughter, husband or wife, and friend to those in your path that is this life.
  • Brilliant book, written in a story setting which helped to understand the concept. Would recommend and now my son is reading the book.
  • Another way to consider improving one self, by seeing others as people. Looking forward to exploring more and applying principles.
  • The concept is good but I struggled with the way it was written. It’s written like a rather patronising story with heavy American names, like Bud and Chip. It’s a bit cheesy but if you can see past that the concept is interesting.
  • it’s very basic no breakthrough if you are experienced leader
  • Great read, important things in here!
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